Guiding Principles of Constellation Facilitation
1. Organicity- Self-Healing
We regard every person seeking help as inherently capable of growing, changing and facing the challenges that
life throws at t hem. Like a doctor who prepares a patient to heal a wound by removing t he obstacles that get
in the way of self-healing (e.g. possible infection) a constellation facilitator prepares for healing by releasing the
family system of t he blockages that prevent t he ‘flow of love’ from reaching the current generation.
The healing images that appear as the constellation unfolds, are impulses for growth, not
prescriptions for action. These images bring to light what has been hidden or lost This stimulates an inner
development within our family soul that evolves into a re-organisation of our family system. That in turn
provides the motivation and strength to act differently in one’s daily life.
In other words the healing does not come from acting out of obedience to someone else, or as a consequence
of something someone has said or done or in resistance to something. Rather it comes from tuning into and
flowing with this organic healing movement; the natural tendency of life to adjust, adapt, and spontaneously
reorganise as new experiences are integrated. In this way we are all able to face the reality of the circumstances of our life and we naturally become stronger.
2. Non-violence- Humility
We respect and trust in each person’s capacity to choose, to decide and to determine how to deal with what happens in their life.
Therefore as facilitators we need to beware of imposing our own agenda and projecting our own values and
experiences. This requires ongoing self- reflection as to how we may be inadvertently imposing thoughts. words,
actions i.e. a “I know what’s best for you” attitude- that does not belong to the unfolding organic process. It also
requires a here and now non judgemental awareness so that we can more easily identify when we have fallen prey
to these processes as we inevitably will from time to time.
3. lnclusivity- multi-partiality
Family Constellations are a process of collaboration. reconciliation. consciousness-raising, and of integration of split
off parts. We believe that all parts of a system and person are interconnected and interdependent and therefore
must be considered and given a place.
The family system includes all who enabled the family to come to be and therefore we open our hearts to all who
have been excluded because of pain, hurt or fear and we attempt to give all who belong, a place. We work with
both the living and t he dead and in contextualising the events and experiences of family members. We
even include family members who may have committed unspeakable crimes. If we don’t, other family members suffer unnecessarily.
4. Unity- Body, Mind, Spirit
In constellations the body becomes the primary source of information, intelligence and change. The facilitator uses
his or her own body to register changes, to guide actions, to make assessments and observes and tracks the body
of the person who is being interviewed. We also listen to the feedback coming from the bodies and minds of the
representatives during the constellation process. In this way we are assuming that all experience, including spiritual
and mental, is registered in the mind/body connection and that we communicate with the personal and systemic
unconscious mind through the body.
5. Healthy Order with Love
Constellations attempt to bring healthy lrder to family systems with love. Love without order is blind and often ends in
tragedy while order in family systems without love is cold and impersonal. In Constellations we allow love to unfold
within the context of certain orders:
- Priority according to place in time
- balance of give and take.
- Every family member carrying their own responsibility and fate
This then enables the current generation to live their life fully unencumbered by past unresolved entanglements.
As facilitators we are committed to nurturing:
- the ability to tune into and flow with the organic healing movement
- the here and now non judgemental awareness that is required to sustain humility
- the courageous compassion required for complete multi-partiality
- the ability to shift our attention fluidly between different domains such as observation of the body, the order in family systems and intellectual reflections
We believe the best way to to this is through a regular practice of mindfulness which is the practice of
courageously opening our awareness to the contents of the mind (sensations, emotions. impulses and thoughts) in
a compassionate. curious, and non judgemental way.